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A Divine Perspective 13: Year of Me: It’s Not Too Late

A Divine Perspective- Sunday, May 19, 2019

It’s been about 2 months, since the last Year of Me posts were made.  Many found the series encouraging.  I’m glad that I was able help and I pray you are in a better place than you were.  So???  Tell me…how’s it going?  Have you started reaching for those goals?  How many times have you started over?

Just know that its okay!  Don’t be so hard on yourself.  You’re only human.  You still have a new opportunity to begin again.  You’ve just got to get up and do it.  Doing nothing is the problem.  Saying you’ll begin tomorrow, and then repeating that same sentiment the next day is the issue.  Act on that thing!  Many shouldas, couldas, and wouldas may have happened if there was continuous goal reaching action behind it.  You know what you want.  You know where you see yourself.  You know that you need to start.  That first step could change every direction of your life.  Don’t just think about it, be about it!

When you find yourself getting back in the slump of “I’ll do it tomorrow”, snap out of it!  Put that Vision Board on your wall and your Words of Encouragement on your bathroom mirror and start again.  They need to be in a place where you can see them EVERYDAY.  Go back and remind yourself of what you proclaimed for yourself back in March or even for the New Year.  Put some continuous goal reaching action behind those proclamations and get goin on your dreams!  It’s not too late!  Stop stopping yourself from doing what needs to be done.

If you would like more posts like this one, Read 2 of my previous posts below:

Year of Me         JUST DO IT!

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Year of Me: YOU Gotta SEE IT!!!

Creating a vision board can help you see that your goals are obtainable.  Here are 5 steps to get you started.

Make the VISION Plain, so that you can see it.

Your Word Wall, helps to speak Life to manifest those dreams.  You are using these words to encourage yourself to reach the dreams that God has placed in your heart.  Creating a vision board helps you visualize the dream(s).  They help you see that your goals are obtainable.  You can add some of your word wall words to your vision board so that your words can line up with what you see for yourself.  Here are 5 steps to help get you started.

You’ve got to be able to SEE IT!

  1. Get poster board & glue or foam/cork board & push pins
    • It can be any size that you want.  Maybe your wall.
      • Use page(s) in your daily journal to glue your vision to.
  2. Get Magazines that represent YOU.
    • Use the magazine to find pictures and words that represent your goals.  Cut them out to glue onto your poster board.  If you are able to use magazines you already own or can use from someone you know, you can save money on this.
      • If you are in your 30s on up, you probably don’t need to use the magazine Seventeen. If you don’t golf, Golf Magazine may not be one that you need.  Get magazines that represent you.
      • I’m adding a checklist to mine, so that I can check off the goals I reach throughout the year.
        • Add anything that positively represents your goals.
  3.  Sticker Letters/Decorations (Optional)
    • This can help jazz up your vision board. Add your personality/your spin to YOUR Vision.  The vision board is a representation of you.  Design it however you want it to look.  Some people even add lights to theirs.  Go Crazy!  Do whatever you want to reflect your personality.
  4. Have Fun!
    • Enjoy this time of making the vision plain.
      • Play music!
      • Re-watch a movie that you already know everything that’s going on, so you don’t have to really focus on it—just for background noise.
      • Have a Vision Board Party and invite others over so that positivity can reign over everyone there.
        • It’s good to have someone other than you that is able to keep you accountable to your goals, if you should happen to get side tracked or discouraged.
  5. Now Run with it! (Habakkuk 2:2-3)
    • Place the vision board somewhere that you can see it everyday.  On the wall next to your bed or in your work space.
      • Take a picture of it and place a copy in your journal so that everyday you are able to see it.
        • Let it be the Wallpaper on your phone, computer, or tablet.
    • Now focus on those goals!  Don’t lose sight of those dreams!  Keep God at the focal point and pray to him about each step to take.  If He put it in your heart, it will come to pass.
      • Encourage yourself daily.  Speak Life into your Visions & Goals at every chance, especially when you start to doubt or think “it” won’t happen.  Remind the Enemy about what Your God says about you. (Philippians 4:13)

So many people create their own unique ways for their vision boards.  Check out Pinterest for some examples of Vision Boards.  Have fun with this. After all, this represents you and it’s for you.

****I hope this series, Year of Me, was encouraging to you.  Please share with me the plans you are already working towards in the comment section.****

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Year of Me Series (Click below to get caught up):

Part 1: Year of Me   Part 2: Write the Vision…  Part 3:Making PLAIN & REALISTIC Goals

Year of Me: Making PLAIN & REALISTIC Goals

Make sure your vision is plain and realistic. Make the vision plain, so that you know your expectations. Make the vision realistic so you can attain success!

Year of Me: …Make it Plain

What goals do you want to reach in your life time? What do you want to accomplish this year?  Are you making the necessary steps in that direction?  You can start working towards these goals now!  Just because it’s no longer January doesn’t mean that you can’t walk in the direction of your heart’s desires.  Start as soon as possible.  Whatever goals you are setting for this year, should be a step in the direction you have for whatever your main goal is.  Your monthly goals should lead to your yearly goals, which lead to your life time goals.

Make sure that the goals you set are plain and realistic.

Make sure you know what you want.  For example: weight loss goals are nothing new, but having a weight loss goal to lose 50 pounds in a month is not realistic.  I don’t care if you are Keto dieting or had a surgery…no ma’am, no sir.  Losing that much weight in a month isn’t healthy.  Strive to lose about 5-10 pounds a month.  This is healthier and realistic.

Make the vision plain, so that you know your expectations.

Wanting to have a better job, but quitting the one you have when you still have bills is not smart.  Continue to work that job you loathe, but also work towards the change you want.  When the right time comes, you’ll be able to leave that job and still be financially stable.  Another way to look at this is don’t leave a job until you have another job.  When making goals and desiring change, you’ve got to be smart.

Make the vision realistic so you can attain success!

As stated before, your monthly goals should be made to approach your yearly goals, and your yearly goals should be striving to reach your main goal.  Ever heard of the saying, “Make the Main Thing, your Main thing”?  Everyday, be sure to take the necessary steps so that your main goal is your focus.  Make your vision plain so that you are clear on what you are working towards, but don’t forger to make them realistic too.

Write the Vision and Make It Plain  –Habakkuk 2:2

(Part 1) Year of Me

(Part 2) Year of Me: Write the Vision…

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Year of Me: Write the Vision…

Words have Power. Speak positively over your life. How will you use your words?

Year of Me: Write the Vision…

I have many things I want to accomplish, and even though Aaliyah said, “Age Ain’t Nuthin but a Number”, I feel like my time is getting away from me.  No, I don’t feel as if death is knocking at my door or even walking in my direction, praise God, but there is a lot that I want to do and I feel like I’m gettin’ too old and won’t be able to do everything. I’ve been complacent for far too long.  Each new year I find myself in the same place of wanting a change and wanting to do me, yet I am doing nothing to make that happen.  I have allowed not only myself, but also people to halt my progress to achieve what I want out of life.  Fears have stopped me.

The Fear of the words from others are included.  Whether it’s from family or Facebook “friends”.  As much as I strive to not care for the thoughts of others, this outlook can still be challenging.  Maybe it’s because I am truly not confident in myself, so having someone else speak out what I am trying to suppress, stirs up the doubt.  WHOAAAAA!!!!!!! Why didn’t I study Psychology???? Dang it!!!  I know that was some looking inside your insides to discover who you is kinda stuff (yes, I meant to say, “Who you is”).

In this year of me, I have decided that I am going to write the vision and make it plain (Habakukk 2:2).  I hear about people creating vision boards.  I’ve always thought they were artistic and unique, but I’ve never completed or attempted to create one.  I never made a vision board, but I used words to write what I wanted.  I did this to “plan out my life” and to list the characteristics I wanted in a husband.  I was consistent in the latter and that most definitely worked in my favor.  I have THE BEST HUZ-BAND!!!  If my consistence worked for my Husband, why not use this for my other dreams and goals.

A personal word wall?  Displaying words that encourage me to believe in my dreams can be helpful.  Not only am I “writing” the vision, but also calling my dreams and goals into existence.  It’s the “calling those things that be not as though they were” and “speaking life into my situation”.  All of this are principles found in the Bible.  *(Isaiah 55:11; Matthew 4:4; Mark 11:23)*  Meditating on these positive and focused words can help me with being successful in my ambitions.  I have the ability to speak life into my well being and these desires that I believe God has given me.  Words have Power.  How will you use yours?

For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit.-1 Peter 3:10

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Onion Salad

They got the newest iPhone, but they smellin all wrong. Got them Beats and they bringin the heat. DE-O-DE-RANT needed here please!

Daily I am cursed with the sometimes fatal aroma of Onion Salad.  I didn’t even know Onion Salad was a real thing, until I saw it online.  I don’t understand it as a meal and I don’t understand why Johnnie, Jamal, Jasmine, and Johanna are still coming to my classroom smelling like it.  They come into the room and knock me out with their loud, intrusive, and unforgivable odor.  I black out for at least 30 seconds, I know I do.  It’s like my life, my feelings, and my nostrils aren’t important.  Am I supposed to just ignore and tolerate?  Not today Satan!  Not Ever!

No one wants to smell the onions permeating from beneath your child’s arm pits.  These kids are coming to school smelling like grown men that work outdoors in the heat.  They stopped smelling cute two years ago.  You know you smelled them when they walked past you this morning.  You know you noticed it.  That wasn’t you you were smelling (I hope), that was them…your baby.  Yes, they’re bodies are maturing now.

They got the newest iPhone, but they smellin all wrong.

 

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Got them Beats, and they bringin the heat.

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They got on them Jordans, but smellin like Gorton’s.  Mother’s teach your daughters before someone embarrasses them.

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Now, I do my best to explain to my students the importance of making sure that after they bathe with soap and hot or warm water, to dry off so that they mayest anoint their underarms with deodorant.  I believe it is selfish and rude of them to not do so.  They aren’t the only ones walking around the school.  Can I get an Amen?  Leave the body sprays and colognes alone, until you rub on that de-o-do-rant.  They need more than baby powder under them pits.

Why should I have to suffer every time they walk past me?  Come on parents! Teach your babies how to wash their clothes too, if you don’t have time to wash their clothing for them.  That same shirt or jacket or hoodie they were musty in, is still musty! 

Oh, you mad at me because I talked to your child about hygiene…who else is going to teach them?  Clearly you’re not.  I don’t want to hear about them being “bullied” and made fun of because other students are saying they smell bad.  Hey lady, hello sir, they do!

This is an easy fix.  They didn’t make themselves.  They didn’t ask to be here.  Help your baby…for everyone’s sake.  No more Onion Salad…I don’t want it and I didn’t order it!  Thanking You!

 

Eleven Things I Learned in 2017

On New Years Day until today, I actually reflected on things that I learned about myself last year. I usually don’t do that, but in my attempt to become an adult and find growth within myself, I thought this could possibly be beneficial for this new year.  Here are 11 things that I have learned in 2017:

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year EVERYONE!  I pray you all had a blessed and enjoyable time with your family and loved ones.  If you were on your own, I hope you were able to enjoy this Holiday Season with time to yourself.  I haven’t posted in a while, but I am back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

On New Years Day until today, I actually reflected on things that I learned about myself last year. I usually don’t do that, but in my attempt to become an adult and find growth within myself, I thought this could possibly be beneficial for whatever is in store this brand new year.  Here are 11 things that I have learned to live by 2017 and on:

  1. Forgive yourself from past mistakes, because God has.
    • Sometimes we keep our own selves bound by not forgiving our own selves even when we ask people or God for forgiveness.
  2. Don’t stress over not having children.
    • They will come in due time.
  3. It’s okay to not have everything figured out by 30…you are still growing up.
    • Reaching 30 doesn’t mean you have all the answers.
  4. It’s okay to make mistakes; learn from them and move on.
    • Get over them, basking in them only adds stress to your life.
  5. Unplanned things happen.
    • How you react to them is what matters.
  6. Don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself.
    • Don’t allow anyone to disrespect you. Stand up for yourself and respectfully speak your mind.
  7. DO what makes you happy. 
    • Stop living your life according to how others think you should be.  If it doesn’t displease God, then you’re good!
  8. Everyone isn’t going to like you & that’s okay 🙂
    • Just continue to be the best you that you can be.
  9. Don’t feel like you always have to explain yourself. 
    • Some people just don’t want to understand you.
  10. Never hide who you truly are, if it offends someone, that is not your problem.
    • Don’t add more problems to your life.
  11. Be Patient
    • Everything happens for a reason, no matter how slow the process may seem.

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Gone, but not forgotten on Christmas

The song ‘s declaration is indeed true because Christmas isn’t the same without your family around to share it with you.  I can no longer run to them and see their happy faces during the holiday season.  I can always think back to our last Christmas together, but it’s nothing like actually touching their warm skin and hearing their gentle voice as we talk over dinner and tell jokes.

This time of year truly is the most wonderful time of year.  The “feeling of Christmas” is all around…just breathe it in AND avoid the news.  Christmas seems better when you can spend it with the ones you love and care for.  This creates more great memories.  This year also brings with it memories spent with those no longer living close by, or that have passed away.

The other day I was listening to a song by a popular Rhythm and Blues group from the 70s, called the O’Jays.  The song says, “Christmas just ain’t Christmas, Without the One You Love”.  As I was singing along, I couldn’t help but to think about family and friends that are no longer here. I attempted to turn my thoughts elsewhere because I didn’t want to think about all of the loved ones I lost in the last two years and on.  I’m still not able to think about them without my eyes “sweating”.

The song ‘s declaration is indeed true because Christmas isn’t the same without your family around to share it with you.  I can no longer run to them and see their happy faces during the holiday season.  I can always think back to our last Christmas together, but it’s nothing like actually touching their warm skin and hearing their gentle voice as we talk over dinner and tell jokes.

I will do my best to never forget those times.  They may be gone, but they are definitely not forgotten.  We can’t allow those memories to take away the joy this time of year brings with it.

Make the most out of this time with family that are still around.  Let them know that you are grateful for them and that you appreciate all they do.  Some of this may be an exaggeration of the truth, but let’s just say that we are “calling those things that be not, as though they were”.  Sometimes when the time gets rough, they are the only ones you can rely on to be there for you.

Enjoy those walks down memory lane with them.  Enjoy that uncle that makes you shake your head at what he wears, because he doesn’t care what anyone thinks of him.  Enjoy that mother or father that continues to embarrass you with all that they say, because they are right and everyone else is wrong.  Be grateful for the horrible food that your aunt, who doesn’t realize she’s lost her anointing to cook years ago, makes for the family.  One day you are going to miss all of these people because one day they will not be there with you.

Family is the same no matter who or where you are.  You didn’t pick your family, but you do the best you can to love and tolerate them, even if you don’t understand them. Especially if you feel they don’t understand you.  Love on them while you still can.  Smile as you remember those gone and those here.  You may cry, but don’t forget to smile.  Cherish the memories of yesteryear and continue to make new ones for the years to come.

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A Divine Perspective 12: Christmas, A Recipe of Emotions

The holiday season brings about a recipe of emotions.  Depending on what you prefer for this mixture, take about 5 cups of excitement, 7 cups of perfectionism, and 2 cups of stress.  Sprinkle in 2 tablespoons of “This is too much”, 1 Tablespoon of family getting on your nerves, and ½ a teaspoon of “Oh no, I forgot the…”.  You may add or takeaway other ingredients and change measurements according to your taste.

The holiday season brings about a recipe of emotions.  Depending on what you prefer for this mixture, take about 5 cups of excitement, 7 cups of perfectionism, and 2 cups of stress.  Sprinkle in 2 tablespoons of “This is too much”, 1 Tablespoon of family getting on your nerves, and ½ a teaspoon of “Oh no, I forgot the…”.  You may add or takeaway other ingredients and change measurements according to your taste.  This cake is a large conglomeration of many emotions.  Try not to eat this entire cake in the same day you’ve baked it.  It is very heavy and can cause mood fluctuation.

Usually everyone that participates in this season or any holiday can understand. We want everything to be just right and we don’t want anyone to try to shake our dream of a perfect Christmas.  “Who cares how much money we spend on decorations, lights, gifts, food, stocking stuffers!,” we say.  Then empty bank accounts bring us back to reality or unexpected hospital stays because of stress.  Don’t allow this season to erase how you have drawn Christmas in your head, but don’t make this into a fantasy because you are so busy trying to make this Christmas better than the non-fairytale Christmases of your past.  Yes, enjoy this time with family and friends, but don’t get yourself worked up over it.  Remember to be anxious for nothing…when you feel the burden of perfection coming on, pray for the Peace of God.

Keep your focus on who and what this season is truly about.  The birth of Jesus, the Savior of this World and how he was born into it, to teach man-kind His ways, so that we might have a better life.  Don’t allow the commercialism of Christmas to snatch your joy and add unhealthy pressure to this glorious holiday time.  Don’t allow what you can not do, to get you down.  Enjoy what you have and who you are with!  May God Bless you and Keep you & Yours.

Philippians 4:6-7New King James Version (NKJV)

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

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A Divine Perspective 09: Get Out!

Sometimes people don’t know what they want to really do with their life until life after college/university.

Life has many things that can make one go from a high, to a quick low.  One cause may be returning to work after an enjoyable and relaxing vacation.  Praying and positive thinking does help, but it can still be trying when you just don’t look forward to your job that you are obligated to return to.  You soon begin to feel trapped and looking for a way out.

Many people are not happy with their job or career choice, but they stay with it because it helps to pay the bills.  Older generations do not understand why Millennials or Pre-Millennials (Generation Y) have a hard time with this concept of working at a place that brings misery, but still pays the bills. Having to go day after day to a place that brings no happiness or enthusiasm to your life is simply torturous; especially if this lifestyle has become a continuous cycle.  Younger generations want to look forward to their daily jobs or whatever career choice they went to college for.  *Sometimes people don’t know what they want to really do with their life until life after college/university.*  Start now at working on being able to Get OUT!

Begin to look to your talents to help you reach the escape you are seeking.  What God given gifts or talents do you have that bring you joy? These gifts could eventually help you to pay those same bills and allow work to no longer be a tormenting chore.   Your job becomes enjoyment that you are now making money from.  Continuing to do something that brings you grief is not a healthy way to live one’s life.  You’ve got to find out what makes you happy.  If it doesn’t bring you or anyone else harm, do what you love to do.  That’s the gift that God has given you.

Get OUT & Do What YOU Love

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BLUE Is Not a BOY Color

Remember back in elementary school, when it was important to follow the rules of gender or your classmates?  As a little girl in the 1st grade, I definitely felt this way. Not in everything, but in some things.

I can remember during this time, realizing that I liked the color blue.  I was told that girls were supposed to like red, pink, or purple and boys could like blue, green, or black.  So, to not be accused of being a boy, I decided that I would choose the color red as my favorite color. Don’t get me wrong, I did not see myself as a boy, nor did I want to be a boy.  I was very much happy being a girl, but I didn’t want to be accused of being a boy.  This could lead to the devastation of being teased and losing friends.  Even though the strength of the color blue brought me satisfaction, doing what was expected of me was more important. 

I believed I had to change myself for the comfort of others. 

I hated this new choice.  I dealt with it internally, for about a day, but it was a big deal for me.  I remember feeling like I had just let myself down.  I no longer felt comfortable in my own skin.  I felt the heavy burden of having lied to someone, and that someone was me.

The next day at school, when we were again either discussing favorite colors or choosing colors to use, I proudly professed my love for the color blue.  I declared to my class that I didn’t care what they thought about me; my favorite color was blue!  This was one of the 1st times in my young life, that I had to let someone know that I was going to be happy and proud of the choice I had made, regardless of what anyone else thought of me.  Loving blue made me comfortable with myself, even if it was considered a boy color.  

I say all of this to ask this question: What Choice are You Making because of Other People’s Expectations of You?  Does it bring you happiness or peace?  Does it allow you to be your true self?  

If any of your answers are no, it’s time to realize that you have to stop living to make other people satisfied.  

If it’s not going to bring physical pain to you, your friends, or family, do what is true to you!  Do what you know you are supposed to be doing!

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A Divine Perspective 08: Give IT a Try

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord.  Plans to prosper you & not to harm you.  Plans to give you a hope & a future.-Jeremiah 29:11

Trust and Believe that God has everything lined up for your good.  It’s hard to see what he has for us with these human eyes.  We must walk by faith and not by sight. If we seek after him and keep our minds on him it will become easier to believe that He truly is doing something for your good.

What does all of this mean?

It means to Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not unto your own understanding.  In all of your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path. Proverbs 3:5-6

Easier said than done, you say?  Well, give it a try?  What have you got to lose?  You’ve tried everything else. Why not try these instructional guide lines from the Bible?

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FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS

Dear Diary,

I am currently at a workshop for my job, and in front of my seat at the table was a flyer that says to “follow your dreams”.  It was meant as encouragement for the faculty, but for many of us, this job is no longer a part of the dream we want to follow.  For me, this sweet little encouragement allows my mind to begin to wander and think about the things that I actually want to do.  I want to be in my home office, or at a park, or at a hippy coffee shop writing for my blog, or even on the many book ideas I have floating around in my head.  There are so many other things I want to do creatively instead of having to encourage others to embrace their creativity.

It is so challenging, just to be present right now.  At the moment, we are supposed to be discussing our goals, but my table is talking about things that really matter in our lives and important issues going on in the world like: Will and Grace, Once Upon a Time, Stranger Things (I was feeling as if I was in the Upside Down), and recalling the 90s when cell phones were not a necessity.  To paraphrase the infamous words of former Seattle Seahawks player and current Oakland Raiders player, Marshawn Lynch, “We are all here so we don’t get fined”.  This day is one of our contractual days and we are expected to enjoy being life-long learners right now.  I don’t mind being a life-long learner with topics that are interesting to me. (Lord of the Rings lore, Game of Thrones lore, Harry Potter background info, make-up tutorials, natural hair tutorials, biblical history, why God truly is Good even in the midst of it looking as if He’s not in control, and soooo much more.)

The holidays are coming (which is totally awesome), so half of the year is kinda-almost over.  I am so trying to take this one day at a time, so as to not get overwhelmed, but when your career wants you to be thinking about goals for the year and what can be done to help you reach that goal, you have no choice but to begin thinking about more than just 1 day at a time.

I don’t know if other people in other careers feel this way, but this 10th year that I am in has had me to reevaluate a few things.  So many people go to jobs they don’t care for because that is the only option they have to gain money for survival.  We all work to survive, I get it.  It just seems more enjoyable to “work” at what you like…celebrities do it all the time.

BE YOUR DREAMS

If there was anything in the world that you could do, what would it be?  What dream or dreams are you not attempting to accomplish because of fear?  What is it that’s stopping you and why?  Is it something that you think your parents wouldn’t support you in doing?  Is it a fear of failure?

“If you don’t build your dream someone will hire you to help build theirs”. —Tony Gaskins

If you have a dream for your life, you’ve got to do what ever it takes to just do it!  Make sure that whatever the dream is, you start working towards it as soon as possible.  Stop allowing each day to go by without you doing something that brings you closer to that goal, that dream, that wish.  If you feel like no one else in your circle believes in you, YOU continue to believe in you.  If it’s not going to cause deadly harm to you or anyone else, go for it!

“The only thing that will stop you from fulfilling your dreams is you.” — Tom Bradley

God doesn’t need to tell people what you know he has told you about your life.  He gave you those dreams and visions for yourself.  If others don’t believe in you, okay.  It’s sad, but don’t allow it to get you down.  It’s a disappointment when those you trust and whose opinions matter to you don’t believe in you, but you gone hafta let that go and do what you know has been placed inside you!

Be You, Do You, Express what is in You to SHARE WITH THE WORLD!  Who knows, it could bless someone besides just you.  You’ve got to Just Do It!!!

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” — C. S. Lewis

What is a Dream Deferred?– Langston Hughes

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The Angry Facebook Friend

Dear Angry Facebook Friend,

As I read your comment or status, I can hear the yelling and see the eye rolls from behind your computer/phone screen.

Facebook should not be the place where you tell everybody your business.  It’s also not the place where you should share all of your opinions.  No where on social media should be a place for that.  Yes, there are those that bring up conversations to start fires, and there are some that feel they have to comment on every status someone adds to FB.  Just because you are allowed to air your thoughts, doesn’t mean that you need to…some people sound so bitter and mean and judgmental.  If you don’t understand why people do what they do, what is the point of disrespecting them?  Just because you disagree, doesn’t give you the right to insult even if you are just saying.  Conversation is different than debate.  Some use Facebook as a platform to debate with all that have a different way of thinking or seeing the world.

Dear Angry Facebook Friends,

As I read your comment or status, I can hear the yelling and see the eye rolls from behind your computer/phone screen.  Stop trying to win every “battle” and shut-up! Be quiet and try to see things from another’s perspective.  You just may learn something because you don’t know everything.  Give another voice a try.  I don’t know what has happened in your life for you to sound so angry at those that disagree with you.  They are not trying to attack you, but just like you, they want to be heard.  They want their opinion to have the chance to be analyzed by others…not just you.  Stop waiting to pounce on the person that agrees with their stance and not yours.  Stop taking your frustrations out on all of us and learn to deal with the real issue.  The real issue is that you have been hurt and you are angry.  Maybe those that oppose you remind you of others that once had a hold on your voice and kept you from speaking out.  Please stop taking your past out on all of us.  We just want to be able to voice our opinion, like you, without being attacked all because we think differently than you.  You don’t always have to share your insight.  You don’t always have to be included in the conversation.  Just scroll up or down and move past that Facebook post.

Sincerely,

Your Facebook Friend

October 10, 2017

In 2007, I made the big move of moving by myself to live closer to my fiancée.  That same year, I became a teacher, and got married.  All of these things were done in a matter of months.  May, August, December.  As the 1st letters of each month spell out, it was a M.A.D, but an exciting and challenging 7 months. Everything was new.  I was gaining a new family, a new career, and a new title…wife.

I was still fresh from my college experience but had no idea that the next 10 years would be a new journey of continuous growing and learning.  These last 10 years have definitely taught me a thing or ten.  This has been a time of self discovery and discovering how people can truly be.  I am just now beginning to understand my purpose in this world.  I haven’t figured everything out, but each day I believe I am getting closer.   Here are 10 things that I have learned, and am still striving to be confident in:

  1. Forgive yourself from past mistakes, because God has.
    • Sometimes we keep our own selves bound by not forgiving our own selves even when we ask people or God for forgiveness.
  2. Don’t worry about having children based on others’ timelines for your life.
    • Too many people rush into having children because they feel that’s what you do after you get married. Get to know your mate as a spouse.
  3. It’s okay to not have everything figured out by 30…you are still growing up.
    • 30 doesn’t mean you are an adult and should have all the answers by the time you reach that number… “age ain’t nothing but a numba”. We are still growing up.
  4. It’s okay to make mistakes; learn from them and move on.
    • Get over them, basking in them only adds stress to your life.
  5. Everything is not going to be comfortable.
    • Unplanned things happen. It’s about growth and becoming who you were meant to be.
  6. Don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself.
    • Don’t allow anyone to disrespect you. Stand up for yourself and respectfully speak your mind. As Michael Jackson said, “With love”.  ❤
  7. DO what makes you happy. 
    • Stop living your life according to how others think you should be.  If it doesn’t displease God, then you are good!
  8. Everyone isn’t going to like you & that’s okay 🙂
    • Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming, swimming, swimming….
  9. Don’t feel like you always have to explain yourself. Some people just don’t want to understand you.
    • You’re not always the crazy one!! They just want to be confused/the victim.
  10. Never hide who you truly are, if it offends someone, that is not your problem.
    • Don’t add more problems to your life.

The number ten symbolizes the completion of a cycle.
It is the number of heaven, the world, and universal creation.  I look forward to what else is in store for me as I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus . Philippians 3:14

October 10, 2017 (10/10/2017)

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